Make Yourself More Likeable Without Saying a Word

“How do I become more likeable?”

I was surprised by the question. In my opinion, my client was very warm and quite likeable. It was my initial impression when we first met. When he described his interactions with his clients, it was obvious they too thought very highly of him from the first meeting, but because he was quite introverted and had been a bit of an outcast in his early years, he didn’t think he was likeable.

It’s interesting how those memories stick and influence our current thinking, even when the evidence doesn’t match.

Our brains are powerful and the way he thought about himself would definitely have a negative effect when he was networking and meeting new people. His negative thoughts would create a self fulfilling prophecy, and as an entrepreneur who’s business thrives on building his network, he couldn’t afford to keep that mindset perpetuating.

Fortunately there are things we can do to make ourselves more likeable before ever saying a word, which will help to easily shift this kind of situation and get better outcomes as a result.

Likeable Tip #1: Expect to be liked.

We are constantly picking up on the cues people give. Subconsciously, our brains are always decoding the signals people are sending, which is why you can immediately dislike someone before they utter a word or you can feel connected to someone you just met and not really understand why.

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